Last time we met, we came to an understanding that having a community, a Godly one, is vital to fulfilling purpose. If you haven’t read it, you can do that here (http://www.hersingledays.com/2018/11/05/building-your-godly-community-part-1/)
Today I want to show you 3 simple and practical steps to building your Godly Community. I am not a preacher or a theologian, but I am speaking from experience, that’s why I believe God lets us go through somethings, so we can come out on the other side stronger and help others.
Before we dive right in, I would like to share a scripture that reiterates the need for a community and that is in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (MSG) “9-10 It’s better to have a partner than go it alone. Share the work, share the wealth. And if one falls down, the other helps, But if there’s no one to help, tough! 11 Two in a bed warm each other. Alone, you shiver all night. 12 By yourself you’re unprotected. With a friend you can face the worst. Can you round up a third? A three-stranded rope isn’t easily snapped.” The Message translation just put it so beautifully, need I say more?
Let’s dive right in to what we have for today!
The first step to building a Godly community is to look at those that surround you. When I first got this revelation of having a Godly community I was a little sad because I felt I wasn’t the most sociable person and I was terrible at making friends so how would I start now to make friends to even get them to the point where I begin to reveal things to them. So, I prayed and asked God for help, he revealed to me people already around me that I never actually noticed. First was my darling cousin who is someone today I can be 100% real and honest with, she challenges me to be better and is there to help me when I feel I am slipping up. Before all this, I would see her as a pesky younger sister (hope she doesn’t see this…lol…). She was younger than I was, so it didn’t seem we would be close enough for me to open myself up to her but doing that has honestly been one of the best decision I have ever made.
Look around at those already in your life and find those you can walk this life with. We do not have to look far all the time, except God is leading you in a different direction. Looking around is not only to invite certain people closer but to break off certain bonds that are holding you to a lifestyle or pattern of being that is not in line with who God is calling you to. I have had to distance myself from certain friendships and relationships that were not helping me progress into the me God is calling me to be. I realized that with some friends I only gossiped, and we never had a productive conversation, we weren’t pushing each other to pray or grow in the word. Do not be afraid to walk out of relationships God is calling you out of. As much as God calls us into things, He also calls us out of certain things. We must learn to obey, even when it seems unfavorable to us. “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Amos 3:3 (KJV)
Like I said, sometimes the community you need may not be close by. Jesus was on His way and there He met His disciples. They weren’t sitting around ideal waiting for a savior, they were at work and so was Jesus “And He said to them, “Why did you seek Me? Did you not know that I must be about My Father’s business?” Luke 2: 49 (KJV). It may seem you do not have people around you can rely on, get working, keep moving, develop yourself into the kind of person you want to attract and, on the way, God would strategically place the right people in your path.
The second step is learning to be vulnerable. That’s a quality I have learned from Peace, the pioneer of this HSD movement. God opened my eyes to people who I could connect with, but I had to make a move and open myself up and reveal things I never thought I could say out to anyone. “Admit your faults to one another and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous man has great power and wonderful results.” James 5:16 (TLB), getting to the point of saying ‘this is where I messed up or this is what I’m struggling with, I need help’ takes a whole lot of vulnerability. I remember the day I told my cousin EVERYTHING! I had chills and I was in tears because it takes a ton of vulnerability to open yourself up to someone like that but that truly is where healing begins. You can’t ask someone for help without first saying the problem. I could not except her to pray with me or encourage me when I was down if she didn’t know what the issues were. When you prayerfully identify your Godly community, learn to be vulnerable, open yourself up without fear of judgment because the right people would not judge you, they would help you. The man by the pool did not receive his healing until he open his mouth and told Jesus what was wrong. We defeat darkness by bringing it into the light. I felt a different level of freedom when I was vulnerable enough to share not just the things I love about myself but the things I utterly despise, the mistakes I’ve made and the struggles I still face. Be vulnerable, it’s not easy but believe me when I say with the right people, it’s all worth it.
The third step and I won’t say the final step is accepting your Godly community won’t be perfect. Like any relationship there would be friction at times, tension, misunderstandings, possible arguments and conflict but the difference between a Godly relationship and any other one is that those things do not tear it apart and you should never let it. This reminds me of Peter and Jesus when Jesus told him to get behind him and called him satan! I would have said “fam bye!” but Peter didn’t walk away, in that movement there was disagreement because they were seeing two different things. Jesus saw the work that needed to be done on the cross, but Peter only saw the cross and death. It didn’t mean Jesus stopped loving Peter or Peter should have walked away from the relationship. When we understand that it’s not always going to be rosy and handheld strolls in the park but actually putting in the work and realizing that whatever comes, you can overcome.
These 3 are far from the end of the matter in building a Godly Community but it’s a start. My final advise is to do this thing prayerfully, do not be blinded folded by years of friendship or blood relationships. Sentiment must be left at the door when building a Godly community, this a destiny and purpose decision and we need to see beyond our feelings in the moment. I’ll say it again, prayerfully make this decision and remember that having a Godly community is not all about getting help but being a help to. I am always so excited to pour into the people that so often pour into me. I pray you grow stronger in your walk with God and as you build your community you are guided by the Holy Spirit. You will reach purpose and when you look to the left and right you would see the right people standing beside you, in Jesus name.