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Daughter…
There lies strength in you; Why are you bowed and taken aback; Why are you a shadow of yourself; Why have you rendered the giant in you asleep, when you have all it takes to be audacious! Why should the past still cripple you, when Christ has visited it and made it new.
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Quit Second-Guessing Yourself (Part 2)
Getting the affirmation of people we love and respect is a great confidence booster. However, when we become addicted to their opinions and affirmations such that we second guess ourselves and subsequently become incapacitated when we don't get it, there is a huge problem! Our confidence and security should be rooted in God not in the opinions and affirmations of others or even ourselves. Our focus should be to please God.
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Service Is A Four-Letter Word
You have probably counted, scratching your head in this moment, and thinking ‘service is definitely not a 4-letter word!” You are right, but this is not a typo also. Let us dig into it. Jesus is our ultimate example, so to understand our duty of service in the kingdom we must look at the life of Jesus. The Bible tells us in Matthew 20:28 (CJB) “For the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve — and to give his life as a ransom for many.” While on earth Jesus lived His life in service to all men, even those we think did not deserve it,…
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Quit Second-Guessing Yourself (Part 1)
This blog post series is specially written to You, Yes You! God has been speaking to you concerning that idea. You have been preparing and looking out for signs and confirmations. Now you have gotten so many confirmations but the voice of self doubt in your head has left you in a pendulous state. How long do you want to pitch your tent in the valley of indecision? You know you ought to have started that vision a long time ago and you have already wasted so much time. Darling, can’t you perceive it? time is fast running out! You were created and destined for the mountain top, please, do…
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How We Have Got God Wrong
God is love. We know this but over time we have gotten a perception of love and somehow kept God in this box. Let me break this down. I always believed God was super loving, caring, and forgiving and He is, believe me, HE IS but His love is also expressed in discipline. This seemed contrary to the nature of God I was taught. To appreciate this side of God we have to understand that our God is a God of principles. The sun rising and setting is a principle, day and night is a principle. If you do A, you will always get B. This is shown all over…
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Things I Wish I Knew Before I Started My Business By Doreen Ayodele (Book Review)
Anyone who has dived into the entrepreneurship world either successfully or unsuccessfully has probably made this statement ‘I wish I knew this before I started my business.’ The entrepreneurially inclined can most likely relate to this and Doreen Ayodele shares your sentiments. Doreen is a Chartered Accountant and Chartered Tax Practitioner with over a decade experience in the financial, managerial and tax industry. She is also the Founder of Finance Clinic Consulting Limited which she founded with 2 friends. In her book ‘Things I wish I knew Before I started My Business’ Doreen delves into the heart of the struggles many entrepreneurs face mainly in the Nigerian context. For those…
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5 Podcasts For Every Lady
Hello ladies! I would like to share with you all my newest obsession and that is PODCASTS!!!! I know they are nothing new, but I personally subscribed to the whole idea a few months ago. I have always been more of a visual person which is why I love watching YouTube videos (a lifetime obsession of mine BTW) and I would share that in some other post but today let’s talk Podcasts! The beauty of them is that you can have a word and a message on the go, I listen to them while I walk to get a cab to work or while I do chores at home and…
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A Lifestyle of Gratitude//Count your Blessings (Part 1)
2018 was one of my most difficult years but also one of the most productive. There were so many winds and waves but Jesus was very present in my boat. In the last few months of the year, I literally got overwhelmed by the storms that were going on around me. I struggled with feelings of being burned out, tired and depressed. Unconsciously, in the mist of the struggle, I let the pressure of the wind create a crack in my soul and the storm began to trickle into me. I remember just been covered by some dark cloud of sadness and hopelessness. I would sleep for long hours, wake…
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Single But Not “Single” (Part 2)
I believe you were blessed by part one of this post! (http://www.hersingledays.com/2018/12/27/single-but-not-single-part-1/) Today, let us begin by checking out what Paul tells us about singleness in 1 Corinthians 7:33-35 (MSG): “I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you’re unmarried, you’re free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God. I’m trying…
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Single But Not “Single” (Part 1)
Sometimes I wonder why singleness is always caged within the confines of marital status. The popular norm is, if you are single then it automatically means you are unmarried, “Bae-less” or “Boo-less”. This is not false but, in my opinion, it is limited and myopic. To decipher and critically analyse the word in a broader sense; to be “Single” means to be one, focused, whole, unique, exclusive, chosen, set-apart, distinguished or unmarried. For so many years, I dreaded being bae-less. The moment I was out of one relationship, I would quickly hop to the next. I never gave myself the time to take a break, to heal or reminisce. I…
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He Loves Me, He loves Me Not (Part 2)
Guess you were shocked or you probably had a good laugh while reading my chronicle in part one (http://www.hersingledays.com/2018/12/09/he-loves-me-he-loves-me-not-part-1/ ). That was me “a few years ago”! I am a living testimony of 2 Corinthians 5:17 (Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new) I still cannot believe today I can pass by a “fine Brother”, and probably acknowledge that he is wonderfully and fearfully made without assuming or guessing if he is or isn’t my Boaz. I was literally living my life for the “Boazes”. I made an idol of relationships and marriage. Presently,…
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Who is your Storyteller?
I grew up in an awesome and closely-knit family of 7. I am the third of 5 children. I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers. In my precautious mind as a child, being the middle born meant I was hidden or sometimes overlooked. It also meant that when there was an extra piece of ‘sweet’ (candy) it was either given to my elder or younger siblings and I was forgotten. I felt like I was not counted in for any special privileges. I had 2 elder siblings to respect and 2 younger siblings to take care of. Fitting in was so difficult for me! Amid my sisters, I felt like…
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Let God Drive your Sex Drive//Break the Silence! (Part 2)
I trust that the first part of this series blessed your heart! Today, I would be sharing a brief sneak peek into my testimony. Just like God has assured me, I believe it would help someone finally break loose from the shackles of sin, shame, secrecy and silence so that they can come out of hiding and receive love, healing, restoration and wholeness from our heavenly Father! I have been a single Christian for almost 30 years of my life. By God’s grace, it’s been an awesome journey thus far. I grew up as a Pastor’s kid in a very orthodox church. For obvious reasons, there were so many doctrines…
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Tough Trust (Part 2)
I believe you were blessed by the first part of this series (http://www.hersingledays.com/2018/12/09/tough-trust-part-1/ ). As you were reading those words in part 1, You may have even given up or you are thinking of throwing in the towel. But I urge you to hang in there. Let Faith begin to rise in your heart and soul! God says the plans He has for you are plans of good and peace to give you an expected end (Jeremiah 29:11) the waves may be big, but GOD is bigger! He has said He would take you to the other side; trust His word and His timing. Trust the process! Anyone who puts…
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How Shall this Be?
The year is pleasantly wrapping up. I can already feel and perceive the sweet aura of Christmas in the air! It is no surprise that this season always comes with an amazingly cool breeze of love and joy because it encapsulates and announces the birthday of our saviour, Jesus. However, amidst the jolly, we often have a certain proclivity towards reflection. Whether consciously or unconsciously, we reflect on the entire year and how much we were able to glean from it. Some people like me, even go back to their list of goals, prayers and expectations to take stock. Even though I am still yet to do that this year,…
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He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not (Part 1)
Have you ever been in a “relationship” where you were not exactly sure whether you were loved?? Have you ever unconsciously found yourself suspecting every man that comes around you is your ‘Boaz’?? My answer to this is YES!! However, regardless of your answers to these questions, I am writing this post series from my heart to yours. This is to encourage and remind you that even in the midst of the wait, we can rest securely and absolutely in the Father’s Love. A few years ago, I was in this “friendship” with a guy (we’ll call him Nick). Nick was a “good person” and a “good friend”. He was…
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Tough Trust (Part 1)
In 2010 pain and her retinue visited my cute happy family. Just when we thought our boat was sailing smoothly a sudden storm hit our tribe. My Daddy was diagnosed with a rare nervous system disease, Motor Neuron Disease; a condition that affects the nerve cells and leads to a progressive weakening and degeneration of all the muscles in the body, which eventually affects the ability to breathe. Things happened so fast, yet in slow motion. After a bit, we watched my super Daddy go from limping to being carried, and finally to being paralyzed and permanently bed ridden. He was put on a ventilator machine to supply oxygen directly…
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You’re Better Than This!!!
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Building Your Godly community (Part 2)
Last time we met, we came to an understanding that having a community, a Godly one, is vital to fulfilling purpose. If you haven’t read it, you can do that here (http://www.hersingledays.com/2018/11/05/building-your-godly-community-part-1/) Today I want to show you 3 simple and practical steps to building your Godly Community. I am not a preacher or a theologian, but I am speaking from experience, that’s why I believe God lets us go through somethings, so we can come out on the other side stronger and help others. Before we dive right in, I would like to share a scripture that reiterates the need for a community and that is in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12…
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Redefining DESPERATE (Part 2)
Desperate comes from a Latin word “desperare” which means “despair”. I was so stunned when I saw the definition in the Merriam-Webster Dictionary: According to it’s definition, desperate means: Having lost hope, giving no ground for hope, moved by despair or utter loss of hope, involving or employing extreme measures in an attempt to escape defeat or frustration, suffering extreme need or anxiety, involving extreme danger or possible disaster of extreme intensity. Wow! Too much negative emotions in just one word. You can then begin to imagine what a desperate person would look, sound or act like. The system of this world is filled with a lot of things to…
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Redefining DESPERATE (Part 1)
Have you ever wondered why single women are often tagged “desperate” while the single men are almost always let off the hook? This really boggles my mind! Is this true or it is just a stereotype? (I would love to know your opinion). I believe just like pain, desperation does not know or have a gender. However, viewing it from society’s lens, it seems like it wears a slim fit dress, high heel shoes, and lipstick. Whether male or female, it takes only God’s grace to live in this broken and wounded world without letting its spiky edges pierce your heart or drive you into a state of despair. I…
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My Quiet Time
I woke up this morning feeling very drowsy and tired. Guess it was because I went to bed quite late or maybe I am not just a morning person! As usual, it took me quite a while to peel myself out of bed. When I eventually realized I was awake and not in a dream, I got up and reached out for my phone to check the time. To my greatest surprise and joy, it was about 4:30am. I was so elated and pleased with myself. For about 4months now, the Holy Spirit has been prompting me to wake up earlier to spend some time with Him and in the…
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Let God Drive Your Sex Drive || The Elephant In the Room (Part 1)
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You are a Good Thing!
Daughter of the King, I bring you good news from your Father. He said, “You are a Good thing!” Yes you! “You are a good thing!” I know this is an awesome news but for some women it may sound like an oxymoron and it may even trigger bad memories. I know because this message is particularly for these special group of women. Its okay darling! Those mixed feelings swelling inside of you as a result of hearing this message are perfectly normal. I have lived there before; there were seasons and detours in my life where I thought nothing but the worst about myself because of life experiences, most…
